We romanticize “the strong one.”
We celebrate her ability to hold everyone down, bounce back, stay gracious, stay grounded, stay available.
But we rarely ask: at what cost?
Too often, her strength becomes her silence.
Her resilience becomes her isolation.
And her survival becomes the only story she’s allowed to tell.
“She’s not exhausted because she’s weak.
She’s exhausted because she never gave herself permission to stop.”
Some people don’t realize how much strength it takes to keep showing up with a soft heart in a hard world.
To be the one who never complains, never crumbles, never makes it about her.
But strong women aren’t tired because they’re dramatic.
They’re tired because they’ve been essential.
To everyone. All the time.
Even when they’re unraveling quietly in the dark.
“She’s not asking to be saved—she’s just asking to be seen.”
The truth is, a lot of strong women were never taught how to rest.
How to receive.
How to say “I’m not okay” without guilt.
So they compartmentalize.
They pour from an empty cup.
They master the art of functioning through the fatigue.
And then?
They get labeled as “resilient.”
When really… all they ever wanted was to feel safe enough to be soft.
“Resilience is not a compliment when it came at the cost of your peace.”
If you’ve ever been the one who kept loving even when it wasn’t returned…
Who gave grace no one gave back…
Who stayed silent because falling apart would make others uncomfortable…
This is for you.
You were never weak for needing rest.
You were never too much for wanting peace.
And you were never meant to carry it all alone.
Maybe it’s time to stop just surviving—and let yourself be held, too.
If this piece made you pause,
If it felt like it was written for you—
Then I need you to know this:
You were never meant to carry it all alone.
You just didn’t have a choice.
But now? You do.
That’s why I wrote In Her Hour of Need.
It’s for the woman who’s always holding it down.
Who knows how to survive… but is finally ready to be seen.
This book is your space to exhale.
To release. To choose you.
📘 Grab your copy here: In Her Hour of Need
Because survival isn’t your whole story.
And strength doesn’t have to come with silence.
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