There’s a certain kind of pain that comes from giving your all to someone who just can’t give it back. And if you’ve been there, you know exactly what I mean. It could be a parent, a friend, a sibling, or a lover. And let’s be real, it’s heartbreaking. It does something to your soul when someone you care about just can’t show up for you the way you need them to. They can’t give the love you so freely offer. And sometimes, they don’t even realize they’re doing it.
You’re not a priority in their life, and that hurts. What makes it even harder is that, as soon as they call or text, as soon as they hint that they’re in trouble or need something, you’re there. You jump, rearrange your schedule, and bend over backwards for them. You do it because it feels like that’s what you’re supposed to do. Or maybe you do it because they tell you nobody else shows up for them the way you do, and you don’t want to be just another person who lets them down.
But let’s get honest for a second—while you’re giving from a place of love and openness, are you also giving from a place of lack? Maybe you’re showing up for them not just because they need it, but because you’re giving them all the things you wish someone had given you. You’re filling a void, hoping that if you love them hard enough, they’ll see you, value you, and give back what you’ve been longing for.
But here’s the truth: their inability to show up for you doesn’t mean you always have to fill their needs. Sometimes, you’ve got to save yourself first.
I know that’s tough to hear, but you can’t keep pouring from an empty cup, hoping that one day they’ll finally see how much you’ve sacrificed. Because in the end, if you keep giving and giving without receiving, you’ll be the one who’s drained. And sometimes, the hardest realization is that not everyone can meet you where you are, no matter how much you love them or how much you give.
It’s not your job to heal their wounds, especially if it’s costing you your own peace.
You can still love them. You can still care. But you don’t have to break yourself to fulfill their needs, especially when they can’t do the same for you. You deserve people in your life who want to show up for you, who can match the love and energy you put out there.
So maybe it’s time to pause. To take a step back and ask yourself: Am I showing up for them more than I’m showing up for myself? And if the answer is yes, maybe it’s time to put yourself first.
You deserve the kind of love that meets you where you are—no more one-sided relationships or giving to those who can’t give back. It’s time to stop settling for less and start attracting the love that aligns with your worth. 💛
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