Included vs. Considered: Why Being Invited Isn’t the Same as Being Valued
You’re not asking to be in the room. You’re asking not to be forgotten once you’re already in it.
There’s a difference between being included and being considered—
and if you’ve ever felt overlooked in a room full of people who say they love you,
you know exactly what I mean.
Inclusion says, “You’re invited.”
Consideration says, “You’re valued.”
Inclusion says, “I thought to bring you.”
Consideration says, “I thought about how this affects you.”
One makes space for your presence.
The other moves with your presence in mind.
Let’s Call It What It Is:
Some of y’all are tired of being tolerated.
Tired of being added to plans but never really factored into decisions.
Tired of being thought about after the fact.
You’re not crazy for noticing the difference.
You’re not “too sensitive.”
You’re just done mistaking proximity for priority.
Because being invited out with your friends isn’t the same as being confided in.
Being someone’s partner doesn’t mean you’re part of their process.
Being in the picture doesn’t mean you’re in the frame of their future.
Here’s the shift:
Inclusion makes you present.
Consideration makes you matter.
A lot of people will include you in their life because it benefits them.
Because you’re convenient.
Because your loyalty is consistent.
Because your energy is grounding.
But being considered?
That takes emotional maturity.
That takes real effort.
That takes care.
Quick check-in:
Are they sharing with you—or just sharing space?
Do they bring you around—or bring you into their decisions?
Are you only thought about when it’s time to show up? Or are you factored in before the choice is made?
There’s a reason you feel the gap.
Because your heart knows what it’s like to be present, but invisible.
Useful, but unacknowledged.
Respected… but not regarded.
Say it with me:
“Don’t just include me.
Consider me.
Not just when it’s convenient,
but when it counts.”
That’s what love sounds like.
That’s what partnership feels like.
That’s what emotional safety looks like.
If you’ve been settling for inclusion…
and trying to convince yourself it’s enough—
this is your sign to stop lying to your needs.
You’re not hard to love.
You’re just tired of being added to spaces you should’ve been accounted for in.
There’s a difference.
And you deserve it.
If this piece sat heavy on your chest—it was supposed to.
Because you’ve been showing up everywhere for everyone, and still wondering why you feel invisible.
And when you’re ready to stop shrinking your expectations just to keep people close,
I want you to have something that helps you hold your standards without losing your softness.
That’s what Poor Me to Soul Rich was created for.
It’s not just a book—it’s a healing process.
A shift. A reclaiming.
Not of your schedule.
Of your self-worth.
You can read it when you’re tired of asking for the bare minimum.
When you’re ready to stop being included, and start being considered.